You can run a little more gap at lower power levels, anything over 400whp will blow out without an external ignition amp. Some have luck with tighter gaps, some don't.
Cop is pretty much a swap it on and use your old plug set-up. Unless your fouling out then I would stick to BPR7ES. If you have a little knock, then sometimes the BR7ES non projected plugs can help.
I run about 350whp on E85 and have a good clean plug with the BPR7ES at .22" gap. It's a little tight for gas, but with E85 it's happy.
I never have unscrewed the tips of my plugs, nor heard about it. Not sure if it really matters.
Read up on COP in the post call coil packs and dwell time. Lots of useful info and mind blowing technical jargon regarding COP.