the jdm harness had two relays for these fogs. one was normally closed, one was normally open.
now there are relays with 5 pins[single pole, double throw], 30, 87a, 87, 85 and 86, which can serve the purpose the two stock jdm fog light relays.
one of the two 87 pins serves as the normally closed [NC] part, and the other as the normally open [NO].
here's the relay:
85 - ground
86 - supply from high beam
30 - supply from output of tail light relay
87a - to outer fog
87 - to inner fog
way it works:
once the park lights are swithced on, tail light relay supplies power to relay pin30, passes through to 87a [NC], powering outer fogs.
if high beam column lever is switched, pin86 is supplied power, energizing the coil side of the relay with pin 85 grounded.
energized coil acts a magnet, moving the switch NC --> NO position. in short, power gets transferred from 87a --> 87, from outer to inner.
as an added safety feature, add a 10A fuse between pin 30 and the output from the tail light relay.
if you still need the drawing, let me know.
**thanks to the owner of the relay image**